
Genesis 16:1- 16 “Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. And she had an Egyptian maidservant whose name was Hagar. So Sarai said to Abram, “See now, the Lord has restrained me from bearing children. Please, go in to my maid; perhaps I shall obtain children by her.” And Abram heeded the voice of Sarai. Then Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar her maid, the Egyptian, and gave her to her husband Abram to be his wife, after Abram had dwelt ten years in the land of Canaan. So he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress became despised in her eyes.
Then Sarai said to Abram, “My wrong be upon you! I gave my maid into your embrace; and when she saw that she had conceived, I became despised in her eyes. The Lord judge between you and me.”
So Abram said to Sarai, “Indeed your maid is in your hand; do to her as you please.” And when Sarai dealt harshly with her, she fled from her presence.
Now the Angel of the Lord found her by a spring of water in the wilderness, by the spring on the way to Shur. And He said, “Hagar, Sarai’s maid, where have you come from, and where are you going?”
She said, “I am fleeing from the presence of my mistress Sarai.”
The Angel of the Lord said to her, “Return to your mistress, and submit yourself under her hand.” Then the Angel of the Lord said to her, “I will multiply your descendants exceedingly, so that they shall not be counted for multitude.” And the Angel of the Lord said to her: “Behold, you are with child, and you shall bear a son. You shall call his name Ishmael (meaning “God will hear”) because the Lord has heard your affliction. He shall be a wild man; his hand shall be against every man, and every man’s hand against him. And he shall dwell in the presence of all his brethren.”
Then she called the name of the Lord who spoke to her, You-Are-the-God-Who-Sees; for she said, “Have I also here seen Him who sees me?” Therefore the well was called Beer Lahai Roi; observe, it is between Kadesh and Bered.
So Hagar bore Abram a son; and Abram named his son, whom Hagar bore, Ishmael. Abram was eighty-six years old when Hagar bore Ishmael to Abram.”
In many respects, this is a horrible story. Although this passage refers to Hagar as a maid servant, she is actually a slave and bound to do whatever her master and mistress command. Undoubtedly, Abram has hurried home to inform Sarai of all the promises that God has made. Knowing that her body is past the age of child-bearing, Sarai cannot imagine any other means by which Abram will father children apart from taking her servant as a junior wife. Of course, nobody asks Hagar for her input, despite the fact that Sarai is commanding her to have sex with 86-year-old Abram. (Abram is probably secretly thrilled.)
Perhaps Hagar hopes this change in status will improve her situation; at any rate, Abram impregnates Hagar and hell literally breaks loose. Suddenly, Hagar has the advantage over Sarai, and she is foolish enough to attempt to flaunt it. If Hagar suffers morning sickness, she makes sure that Sarai understands she is vomiting because she is PREGNANT!!! When Hagar’s pregnancy begins to show, she wears the tightest clothing possible to show off her expanding abdomen, literally waving the pregnancy in Sarai’s face. When Sarai tries to give Hagar an order, Hagar ignores her and flounces off in another direction. If Sarai confronts Hagar, Hagar gives her backchat, mocking her. Now Sarai begins to bitterly regret her decision; however, rather than taking responsibility, Sarai blames Abram. Flushed with the knowledge that at 86 he is still potent, Abram refuses to mediate between Sarai and Hagar but rather allows Sarai full reign.
Does Sarai beat Hagar, or simply make life difficult for her? All we know is that Hagar runs off into the wilderness rather than remain in this situation. Hagar is sitting by a spring when the Angel of the Lord confronts her and orders her to go back, promising her that the boy she carries in her womb will also become a great nation. Hagar is to name the boy Ishmael, meaning “God will hear.” Hagar does return to Sarai and Abram and delivers Ishmael. We have no idea how Hagar behaves after Ishmael’s birth, but it’s likely that she continues to harass Sarai in small ways.
What’s wrong with this picture? Neither Abram nor Sarai trust God to give them offspring unless Abram has sex with a younger woman. While God is planning a major miracle, Abram and Sarai are trying to act as amateur providences, bringing about God’s promises by their own efforts. The problem is that this kind of thing always leads to disaster. Eventually, Ishmael becomes the father of the Arab world, proving that God’s promises remain valid, even when we make mistakes. But the conflict between Sarai and Hagar doesn’t disappear; it merely reduces to a lower level. If Abram and Sarai think they are going to have peace in the household by allowing Abram to take Hagar as a junior wife, they are quite wrong!
Even though Abram is referred to as a man of great faith, at this point his faith isn’t big enough to conceive of the idea that his elderly wife might become pregnant. Sarai has even less faith than Abram does, and she’s desperate to retain Abram’s love by any means necessary. This story also graphically depicts some of the problems in polygamous marriages. Here in Ghana, polygamy is relatively common, and I have heard many women refer to the other wife or wives as “my rival” or “my rivals.” Women are driven to do desperate things to ensure that their children will be catered for by their father, and woe betide the children of an unfavorite wife! Favorite wives enjoy fine clothing and good accommodation while unfavorite wives struggle for survival. We have personally witnessed a businessman forcing one of his wives to stand in the compound in the noonday sun for nearly two hours begging for money for her children’s school fees; yet, this same man will boast of the number of children he has fathered.
If you want peace, you must do things God’s way and in His timing. You cannot force God. There are stories circulating of misguided people who have tried to help large moths out of the chrysalises by slitting them open, only to find that the moths need the struggle to develop their wings. God has His perfect timing for Abram and Sarai’s miracle child to be born, but the time has yet to arrive. Now a household that was relatively peaceful has turned into a battleground.
Perhaps you feel God is leading you in a certain direction and you are tempted to take shortcuts. Don’t! If God has promised you something, God will fulfill that promise, but He will do it in His time and not yours.
PRAYER: Father God, thank You for loving us and for caring for us. Lord, help us to remain patient, even when the answer to Your promises seem to delay. In the mighty and precious Name of King Jesus. Amen.












